"Why do some people over analyze?
Here is the quick answer....It's because the interpretation of the meaning of that situation is crucial to their mental stability."
This is true for the good and the bad.
My mind doesn't stop until I find out why; until I research, dissect and figure out the meaning behind everything. From a product, to a thought, to why I do what I do, to other people and events. I don't feel settled and like I can relax without this process.
"For them she seemed like a weirdo who was over concerned with irrelevant details but when you find out what was happening in her mind this excessive concern will make all the sense in the world."
....still in most cases one of the following reasons will be the cause:
- Too many wounds: If a person has too many psychological wounds then the probability of a word hitting one of his wounds will become much higher and that's why he might over analyze almost everything
- Low self confidence: the perception of the world changes and all irrelevant data might seem like attempts to make fun of him, reject him or hurt him.
- He worries often: When a person worries often his brain structure changes in such a way that worrying becomes easier (The same goes for any habit). Now when that person hears a word that he can't understand he will start to worry about its meaning just because he has trained his mind to worry about everything
- The over-thinking leads to a made up scenario that I created and react to
- Too focused on the past or future (mind-reading)
- Mind is light years ahead of present reality
What do I overanalyze the most?
- Relationship / men in my life
~ Emotionally unavailable dad
~ Anxious mother - always having to analyze my actions for what I DID to set her off so I could not do it again around her
~ Trauma in relationship with Brian - feeling deceived / betrayed *computer online stuff
- myself
~lack in confidence to trust myself and my feelings because of my assumptions / mind reading
It's all a mechanism to help me "survive." It's what I am used to. I grew up in an environment where I always had to be on guard because I never knew what reaction I'd get from my mom. I hated when she would yell and get mad and would do anything to stop ti. When she reacted in a negative way (yelling / bitchy) I got into the habit of analyzing what I did so I could understand what I did and not do it again. I would try and take the blame but deep down I knew I didn't do anything - resentment builds. Over-thinking started to become a habit, something to always do first as a means of protection, as a way to control her reactions - and a means to control my negative feelings. At least that's what I thought I could do. I had no control over her and I was not the cause of her reactions. The habit has still stayed with me.
I get a bad feeling, I analyze what I did or how I affected another person. Once I figure it out I don't feel that bad feeling anymore. However, getting there is a huge emotional turmoil. I jump to conclusions or read minds as a way to bring mental stability to this patterned habit. It is a lightening quick response.
Top that off with being extra-conscious towards tone of voice and body language....it's a ripe way to create anxiety.
Protection from bad "feeling".
Feel the feeling. Let it pass.
You are not your feelings.
Ego causes the anxious, negative feeling.
Act only on facts.
